What is the problem with the following sentence?
Jake Brewer was an IT specialist for the Obama White House, a husband and father of one child and another who will be born in a few weeks.
Think about it for a minute.
The problem is clear, after some reflection:
It does not represent the order of importance. He was a husband and father foremost, an IT specialist secondarily, and a man who worked in a political job last.
He died in a tragic accident last week while riding a bicycle for charity. His wife--widow--is the noted conservative commentator Mary Katherine Ham.
But the coverage of their marriage has featured, a la Carville-Matalin, the seeming Blue-Red mismatch.
While opposites may attract, it is compatibility that sticks.
In a moving memorial to her husband, Ham demonstrates how foolish it is to use a political label to define the whole person.